The Perfect Woman – 3 Things Men Want
Hi, Emily Wood here again. I want to share something with you today and as you can probably see by the title what it’s all about, so without further ado, let’s get on with it!
Believe It Or Not, But Men Don’t Always Want A Perfect Woman
But They Do Want These 3 Things
Do you ever stop and think just how much time you spend on yourself trying to be the ideal woman for a man?
I bet when you really stop and think about it, it’s quite a LOT. Trying to make yourself look your best at all times, attractive, sexy, always choosing the clothes that you think you look best in, putting your make-up on and trying different perfumes and hair styles.
You spend all of this time to make sure you look interesting and fun to be with, maybe even approachable and not looking desperate. You make all of this effort to impress him, to show him that if he was with you, it would be the best thing that ever happened to him… Wouldn’t it be absolutely wonderful if he made his move and decided that YOU were the one he wants holding on to his arm…
But does it ever really work? Probably not in most cases, and then you ask yourself, “Why?”. Why do you bother with so much effort and hard work just for him to take you for granted, and that’s even if he ever actually notices all of the hard work and effort you put in to make him happy and be impressed with you! You might ask yourself, “Is he blind or what?”. Maybe it’s because he is just a bit immature or that he just does not realise what an amazing, wonderful woman you are until it’s too late! Or, could it be because you are the one that has been doing all of the work for him? Good question!
He Won’t Value Your Relationship Unless You Make Him Work For It
Men value things the most when they have had to put in a lot of time and effort, and work for it.
If you give a man a million dollars, the chances are that he will just simply go out and squander it, and why? Because he will value and look after it more if he had to go out, put the effort in, and earn it!
Now, it’s exactly the same with you. Present yourself to him on a plate and the chances are that he will not appreciate you no where near as much than if he had to play hard just to get that first date with you.
However, you have probably realised that there is a BIG problem with this…
This only works up until the point at which he has actually achieved his goal and got you!
There is something about men in that once they think they have got you they then think, “Well, that’s it, I’ve got my prize, now what?”. They are already thinking about the next big thing. So what the hell is really going on here?
And when it comes to your relationship, how do you stop it from messing it all up?
Believe Me You’re Not The Only One – Nearly All Women Realise Or Experience This!
(This Is Why They Like Asking For Help)
You may or may not believe this, but you would be surprised how many women just simply give up on love! They are sometimes scared to let themselves get too close in a relationship in case they scare their man away. However, those savvy women who really want to make it work do it differently, they are willing to go out and ask for help and this is where top author and relationship coach James Bauer comes into play.
He found that a lot of women who were coming to see him were saying that their man was all for it one minute, everything was going fine, and then all of a sudden, well…
For some reason things would just simply change overnight and just left them high and dry with a big question, WHAT?
Their man who had been kind, affectionate, interested, warm and loving had all of a sudden become someone far, far away and distant like they were on another planet or in a world of their own. They stopped smiling when they met, not making eye contact and their kisses were just half hearted brushes on the lips with no feeling to them, or even became just a peck on the cheek. So, James decided to investigate as he wanted to help his clients.
What James found made the missing pieces of the puzzle slip into place. He soon realised what these men were lacking and why they were becoming distant. He realised that they needed something that they were not getting.
It was nothing to do with the women, it was not their fault at all.
It was all down to a deep down primal biological emotion which he called “The Hero Instinct”.
The Problem Is That Almost All Women Do Something Without Even Realising It…
And It Can Drive Their Men Away!
Women are amazing creatures and are able of doing the most amazing things, one of those things is that they are so wonderfully caring.
Let’s take you for example. You are never far away from your man, always there for him when he needs you no matter what. There is nothing in the world you wouldn’t do for him.
But what you fail to see is that while you are giving him all of this attention…
Without realising it, you are depriving him of something very important, HIS PURPOSE!
This is quite easily explained, it’s simple really, he wants you to see him as your Knight in shining armour, YOUR HERO!
Let’s face it, most men are still child-like at heart and love heroes. Just look at how many men sit there watching that superhero movie with that little dreamy, cheesy grin on their face?
From the time they were a young boy playing Cops and Robbers or Robin Hood, they dreamed that when they grew up they would in some way be a hero, and in true superhero fashion get the girl at the end!
The thing is, men don’t get the chance to put their superhero dreams into action in their day to day jobs.
There’s no demand for them to “nip into that phone box” and in a flash re-appear as the superhuman, “Never fear, I will save the world!” superhero they wish they could be. But there is one thing they can still do, and that is get the girl!
For any man with the heart and mind of a superhero, getting the girl is a challenge well deserving of the prize at the end, requiring a heart of steel, overwhelming charm and confidence. However, there is one important ingredient he still needs…
And that is, that special girl who needs a hero, a “Damsel in Distress”! Is that what you need, a hero? Ah, but hang on, that’s not you is it?
You are strong and independent. You can fix that leaking tap. You can change the wheel on your car after a blow out. You don’t need someone to care of you, you can do it yourself. You don’t need a man to make you complete!
But what you may not realise is just how much you have to offer a man. Never wanting anything more than to be able to show how kind, generous, attentive and loving you are. The only thing now is to find that special someone who is willing to appreciate all that you have to give.
But maybe that’s why you haven’t found your hero yet. Maybe that’s why you’ve only ended up with “takers” who just don’t really appreciate you for being you and just end up leaving you high and dry! If you really want that “hero”, you need to advertise, flaunt yourself!
Here Are 3 Ways Starting Today Where You Can Invite A Hero Into Your Life
1. Men love it when you ask for help. So ask!
Ask him for some technical advice on buying a new computer, laptop or phone, or even a toaster! Ask him to listen to that weird rattling sound that’s coming from somewhere in your car. Ask him to reach for something high up on the top shelf. Then thank him warmly, with a great big smile of appreciation and an affection little kiss. No, that doesn’t make you needy. It makes you a woman with the space and time for a man in her life.
2. Take pleasure in the company of your man and his male friends.
Men love it when women appreciate a man for just simply being a man. So what if he is a football fanatic, or always has to watch that certain box set on TV. He’s a man and believe it or not, it’s true and scientifically proven that men don’t really ever grow up, they have always got that hidden child in them, so embrace it, don’t knock it!
So what if his idea of a clean shirt is the one that he thinks doesn’t need ironing. That’s okay, the last thing you need is for him to be more like you, don’t try to influence him, the influence part will come from him, he just won’t realise it and at the end of the day, you have got the feminine side of things covered.
3. He needs to earn your respect, so let him, don’t be a pushover.
A great challenge is something that all superheroes thrive on. They don’t want something that is just simply “given” to them, that is not special or worthy, that is not something he can feel proud about and show off. They want to work for it because that makes it all worthwhile. Just take your time, sit back and relax, let him prove himself, you’re not the one who needs to win him over. Give him the chance to impress you, don’t necessarily make his life easy, he knows deep down that if there is something worth working for, it’s YOU!
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Thanks, Emily Wood.